Drain the rice and rub it well with the ghee. Transfer this to a sauce pan and pour the milk and add the bay leaf, mix and set it to cook over medium flame
When the milk comes to a full boil, stir and lower the flame. Continue stirring, scraping the cream from the sides and cooking until the milk thickens and reduces to half (took me about 45 minutes)
By this time the rice too should have cooked, remove the saucepan from the heat and add in the nolen gur. Give the payesh a gentle but a through mix, cover and set aside for 15-20 minutes to the flavors to deepen
In a small frying pan, heat the ghee. once it melts, add the cashews and charoli seeds (or raisins). Fry until golden brown in colour and set aside
Serve your creamy and delicious nolen gurer payesh, garnished with the cashews and charolis, chilled or at room temperature and enjoy a wonderful seasonal, Bengali dessert